I’ve decided to post once a month to this bad Larry. FYI.
May has been a rough month for me. Wrecked my knee visiting my brother in Lowell (hey, cobblestone streets of Lowell, suck it) because I’m a klutz in heels. So I missed a week of kickboxing. Then, I found out that I did not get the promotion I interviewed 11 times for. I was 2nd place. Most people would pat themselves on the back for making it that far and being so close. But me? I just beat myself up for not getting the job. A very good friend of mine got the job and deserves it – she is a better fit for this particular position and has been there longer. So I was legitimately happy for her.
Unfortunately, I am my own worst critic. How did I cope you ask? Oh you know, same way I dealt with breakups, bad grades, etc. FOOD. And lots of laziness. I like to call it “relaxing” in the moment to justify it. “Oh I can’t go to kickboxing today, it’s been such a crazy day, I need to RELAX. I deserve it.” AKA “I am going to go home and eat Chinese food and fall asleep on the couch.”
So I missed another week of kickboxing.
I have to say during those two weeks I didn’t go I noticed some changes. I had trouble sleeping, I was moody, I had zero energy and crazy junk food cravings. Just an overall feeling of BLAH.
I finally dragged myself back to class on Tuesday and am SO glad I did. I won’t sugar coat it, it totally SUCKED. I was on the struggle bus. Then I went on Friday too. I walked in and none of my usual friends were in class. I was also the only bigger person in class. I usually feel better if there is someone in class that looks kind of like me. Is that bad to admit? Well its the truth, and this blog is a bull shit free zone. So yeah. I really like having some people in class who look like me and are beginners like me. It’s just less intimidating.
So -The Millie that started this journey a few months ago would have quietly slipped out the door and gone home. Sounds crazy and ridiculous right? Fit people have always intimidated me. Every overweight person who has tried or is trying to lose weight KNOWS what I am talking about. You psych yourself out thinking “when I struggle with these burpees the fit people in class are going to be disgusted like ‘look at that fat girl fail at life’ ”
The potential humiliation is terrifying. Running is another thing. Look, there’s a lot of me to move around. I don’t think it will be a huge surprise that I am not the fastest person. I have been improving, but let’s face it, the 100 lb girl who runs every day has me beat. That’s just life, my friend.
Side planks fall right in to the struggle book. I try and I try but nope. Gravity is like “Hey girl haaaay….no F you. You stay down.” I can’t do it. I just can’t. I am too heavy and I am not strong enough yet. It is what it is!
Back to Friday – I was there, I was dressed… so I stayed. As I type this every muscle in my body aches. Because I made it through the entire class without giving up. It was the most difficult class I have taken yet. I mean, I knew Fridays and Saturdays are the toughest, but yikes…!!!
At certain points I thought I might vomit or collapse, but I wanted to finish. And I did. It might sound insignificant to some, but it was a win for me. I really pushed myself. This class is no joke.
And you know what else I learned? Skinny people struggle with plenty of things. Some people who can rock side planks can’t punch like I can. Also, everyone is so focused on their own stuff that no one has time to judge me. I like to think that anyone who does notice that I’m a bit of a novice is like “Good for her. You go chubby girl.” At least I’m doing the work right?
Another small victory, I had a chance to see some people recently that I don’t see for months at a time and they all told me that I look great and to keep at it. That felt great. Its a little hard for me to see the changes, well, because, I see myself every day.
I guess we all have our side planks in life. That thing you can’t do but you are so damn close you can feel it. I think this promotion is my side plank. My goal is to keep working, plugging away and having these small victories. Then one day, in front of a whole room of skinny people, I will side plank like a boss and it will feel awesome.
Until next month…